Good day Sue, I know its been a while since I've posted to you, but I have been dropping by. You seem to be adjusting extremely well, so I haven't had anything to say, but thought I would chime in on your new thread.
As you really know there is no set timeline in which to have R talks. They may or may not come about while you are living apart or they may or may not come about while you are back together again. Bridget just wrote how they were back together again for 4 month before just now having their first. The thing is Sue, try not to worry about the absense of OR talks meaning you are drifting furhter apart, but rather it can contribute to bring you closer together.
The general guideline is wait for spouse to initiate when they are ready. I know you have mentioned that your H may not be so open as to start such a talk, but you know your H well enough to notice when there is change in him that may indicate he is willing to talk. Watch him closely and when you sense something, put out a feeler statement (ie, express a feeling using I statements and starting with "You don't say anything, but I just like you to know...") to see if he will take the bait.
Actually, Sue, there were a couple of oppurtunities already this week, for him to work a R talk in when talking about the scuttlebutt about the both of you. Since, he didn't bring it up then, I tend to believe he is not quite ready yet, but take comfort that it shows there will be signs to tell you when the time is right. Be attentive as you can be to pick up on them.
... and I do hope you don't have to wait too long before it happens.
