Cobra you're in a hole - stop digging. Watching you contradict yourself like this is pretty hilarious. But I think there is a nugget in there that we have been missing and it is this.
Guys tease when they feel insecure, mature women know this and most have learnt to deal with it, girls need to be shown by their mothers how to deal with it. So if a dad is dumb enough to tease his teenage daughter about the size of her boobs or whatever, the mum needs to tell the dad to cut it out, but then she needs to tell the daughter that one of the primary defence mechanisms of men is "offence" and that a dad is likely to be teasing her because HE is confused by what's going on for HIM and not to take it personally.
Scene: Teenage daughter arrives poolside in new hot pink bikini. This is the first time Dad has seen his daughter's recently acquired womanly figure.
healthy Dad either says nothing different to what he would have said when she was 10, or very healthy dad says "nice bikini - I see I'm going to have to dust off my shotgun"
Unhealthy Dad says "ay caramba, watch you don't turn round too quickly with those things, you might give someone a black eye"
The mother's job, apart from saying "cut that out or I'll black your eye you bozo". Is to explain guy mentality, explain why they tease when they're thrown off balance, explain that she might find herself putting up with a lot of dumb remarks like that from now on and that she may as well use her dad to practise her witty comebacks on.
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
