My last thread was locked up, "GIVE ME GUIDANCE...PLEASE". Friday night was bad. In a moment of weakness I threw DB principles right out the window. Our MC called me to tell me she had to cancel, and I was really sorta looking to talk to her. I asked GF if we could talk at about 8:00, where I proceeded to ask her if she even wanted to get over OM. She said part of her doesn't. I asked her if she had turned her emotions off, she replied "yes". She also told me she had "checked out" of our relationship, and that part of her wants it to be over. I then told her, which I deeply regret, that I didn't see "taking more time" doing anything to save the relationship. She asked if we were over. I told her that was her decision. Through the course of the weekend, I sat down with her again, and told her I was focusing on me from now on, and that I was letting her go. She wants to take 1 more month at her parent's house, only she has to stay at our apt. right now because the guest bedroom is being redone. They have a couch there she could sleep on, similar to the one she sleeps on at our place. I know she doesn't want to leave the relationship simply because she's never known anything else, not because she wants to be with me right now. I let a friend of mine convince me to have the talk with her about splitting up our stuff, and she said "I thought we were taking another month apart?" She doesn't want to see the reality that it's over, and she's hanging onto "hope" she told me. Hope? Hope for what? Guys, please bludgeon me with the obvious, to BE PATIENT, AND NOT PUSH HER AWAY!!!
