Thanks Martelo, porn has always been used, it used to be a part of our sex life together, while I was satisfied with our sex life I had no problem with him using porn or masturbating. I still don't, but now it seems like he has substituted our sex life with this, and I have a problem with that. Shortly after I came back here to live there was one night when he came in from work, and asked me to come upstairs with him. I gave him BJ, we were both happy with this and he said that's a nice way to come home from work, then never suggested it again! If I make any moves (which I have pretty much given up on) he says I'm like a leery old man! When I wrote the OP, he had been looking at porn after coming in from work, and I had been out visiting, most nights I'm home, but I'm pretty sure he wouldn't have bothered if I had been that night.
