Hi I have been reading your posts. How alike our stories are. I have been married 25 years with 2 boys one 22 and one 21. My husband took a job 4 years ago that he would be away alot and in fact months at a time. During he had an affair with someone we had helped thru a divorce. He beg me to stay. Then thru a family tragic accident he came home to help his brothers with a business. He now lives 2 hours awayin a 5th wheel trailer at the business. I have taken care of the family business at home and have a full time job. During this tragic time he found another OW who we know and is known to focus on married men. She is very manulative and very good at being just what he likes no Drama.... She has 4 kids and has never had any of them till now. She has never been a mom and had her kids till now she has the 14 year old and is trying to impress my husband that she is a mother. He has told me now that our marrigae has been over for 5 years and he wanted a divorce then. We went to dinner for our anniversary and I actually had him stay with me at a motel to talk ( we didn't ml) because he had slept with her. He talks to me everyday at least twice. He has pulled away from the boys. Which everyone tells him he has the family that everyone wishes for. He told me that he didn't know why he can't support me like I do him. Or why he would want to be with her. I think he is manic depressive. Now back to the why I am replying I am very new at this. I know the gut wretching feeling you have. I have also blown good times because of no patience and I'm like you I want things to happen and be over. Last week he told me that I had taken a good thing and because of being impatience I rode the train into the ditch. I had him coming my way and just had to bring up that she was telling evreyone that we were divorced. It turned into not a good time because I told him what I thought of her. He told me she was telling him one thing and i was telling him another who does he believe. Amazing how deceitful the ow will become. One thing that I have read that I am working on is to Listen ( i'm a question asker to especially when they aren't talking) Not to ask to many questions that is extrememly hard for me. Keep thinking positive and do something for yourself. I lost weight and looked real confident. He told me that being self confident look attractive on me. I just want to tell you to be strong even though its the hardest thing to do. I am not very good at it and really have a hard time. But be your self and be proud of yourself because its not you.
