Muddle, how is it that you are responsible for her unhappiness? Why can't she just leave if she wants to? Do you have her chained to the bedpost or something? What is stopping her? What could you be doing to mess up her little dream? I don't quite get it. If you are preventing her from leaving, I would have to ask WHY? Also, your W saying "why can't you just give up on us" reminds me of my W telling me she didn't want me to hold onto any hope. I told her that she could take everything else away from me but she couldn't take my hope. That was all mine and only I would decide when to let that go, not her. We control what we can, and let go of what we can't.
