Interesting stuff from your group Interesting??? Some I agree with and some seems like perfection in a perfect world.
I guess if I stood up and put the SSM forum on the overhead projector 12' X 12' screen, a few mouths would pop open.
If I want to play by the strictest guide lines I should never have posted on any forum and reading the books was a diversion that wasted time. I am not discounting the good of the program. They have their way, I see the benefit of the forum and the forum / books don‘t fit into their plan.
I like the ethics and the good intentions the leaders have, I don't know if I buy into some of the straight laced thinking.
I know, from what was discussed at the seminar, some radical stuff gets handled by the marriage and family pastor (6 pastor church) and they have affiliations with other churches so there are lots of experienced people in leadership positions.
Donation store activities and retail therapy: I am a waste not type of person. I know I have to let BB deal with her stuff her way. I worked my proverbial butt of to get some of the things we have which lead to some of my back problems, and now poof, we throw it out.
I took a bread box sized carton of candles to the donation store a month ago and yesterday BB was looking at new ones that have lots of aroma. I bit my lip for about 15 minuets and to her credit she didn't buy what the craft seller was demonstrating to her. Not even when he gave her the half off the second candle offer. I thanked her for going with her "less is better" plan she is on big time right now. I tell myself, it's Prozac or retail therapy for BB sometimes. I have been know to take retail therapy pills myself at times.
Today she wanted to look at new homes and I said go ahead, but remember a 20' X 10 yard isn't going to keep the dogs happy. I said I would join her in the new house when I got my stuff sold and it might be a while.
Five years ago, I would have listed all the reasons the new house was wrong for her and me. Back then, I took responsibility for predicting the future happiness for both of us. Today, I essentially said, "here, take the wheel and steer your happiness vehicle. I am tired of being the bus driver all of the time, predicting food and potty stops.
I don't have the delivery down smooth, so it might have sounded like I didn't want to live with BB. I got around to saying, I thought she jumps from "I wnat to I want" so fast, I don't see where she thinks enough about the down side of many of her desires.
Lil: You explained the "you don't want to hear why a person breaks off contact" well. I had longer term relationships in mind.
Those wink things associated with inter net dating, I wouldn't want a reason why they winker lost interest.
