Everything we do is a choice. God has given each of us Free Will, the ability to make choices.
What comes before making choices is "thought." Our thoughts ultimately lead to the choices we make. A MLC person doesn't think clearly therefore they often don't make wise choices.
As we think, therefore we become. We do create our own reality by the choices we make. A MLC person does not believe this. They believe they are a "victim." They believe that things happen "to them." They are a victim of curcumstances. It's always someone elses fault for how they feel. They don't understand that no one can make you feel the way you do without your permission.
A spiritual person believes that all things happen for a reason. In believing this, they believe that things happen "for them." That our experiences serve a higher purpose and their is meaning to all things, and all things are good.
There are no mistakes. There are only lessons to be learned. The experiences we have are opportunities to learn the lessons that are intended for each of us.
If you desire to stop having the same old experiences that cuase you pain and suffering. Than learn what the experiences are about and learn the lesson that is there for you. The sooner you learn the lesson, the sooner you will move on from those painful experiences.
A person who is lost and confused say's; "Why does this shit keep happening to me?" They just don't get it. Things that seem like probelms will keep happening "for them" until they finally "get it" and learn the lesson.
The lesson of "acceptance" is one all of us need to learn. Part of the lesson of "acceptance" is also the lesson of "letting go." Letting go of the things you can not change and accepting the things you can change are life lessons. Having the wisdom to know the difference comes from learning from our experiences.
Going through the experience of a spouse who is in MLC will give the LBS all the opportunities they could ever ask for in learning these two basic life lessons. Until we learn these lessons, it will be a very painful journey through our spouses MLC adventure.
It is so hard to learn these lessons while we are in so much pain. But learn we must, or we will remain in the pain indefinetly.
