"Have you ever had a feeling where your head feels numb? Like it's been in the freezer over night? This is what a MLC person feels like when they are experiencing depression and are in the worst of MLC. The "deer in the headlights look" is because things upstairs aren't functioning cleary. They can't process thoughts and understanding is out of the question. Their mind is not into logical thinking or reasoning."
Oh my!! When H came home for three weeks we were in shock. After we had been intimate, he would begin to cry and it was the strangest thing. He kept saying his head felt as if it was ready to explode, does not know if he was doing the right thing, etc. It was kind of scary actually and it would only happen when he and I were intimate.
"When you ask a MLC person a question during the worst of their experience. What is their most common answer? I DON'T KNOW."
That is so, so true. Probation officer asked H why he was with OW if we have no marital problems and he said I DON'T KNOW.
He has said that to us as well.
You are right on with your analysis.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
