I like your idea to go a little crazy and change it up--patience can only take you so far! Do you think she would like a surprise weekend getaway? One you totally plan and don't even tell her about till you go? I would love that!
Re. the weeds: Is she anti-pesticide maybe? Okay, that's probably not the issue, from what you said. I think I am (or was) like her--I know I've said this before. I take used to take it as a personal critcism if I had something in mind that I wanted to do and H did it for me. I felt like he was saying that I couldn't do it. Of course, he was probably doing to be nice, but that's not the way I took it. OTOH, there was that time he decided to do the pruning for me and cut my mock orange back to nothing after I'd been nursing it for three years to finally get it to bloom well. But I digress...
I think it's a good idea to stay away from the little projects that she's got going, even if they're going nowhere.
You said that she doesn't want to talk about the problems in your M--what other problems are there besides sex? Do you ever have the chance to talk about them? Do you go on dates? Sorry if you've already said so, I don't remember.
You will win this, COG.
Nic
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