He cannot get over the OW help us...

[Heartbroken]

Well S (9) had meltdown this morning - "I hate my life, this family and why can't you two (H & I) just get along..." I have been dealing with this on my own and called H to come over to take a turn....not sure if it was a good idea but H got over and did deal with him.

H seemed so sad and kept saying things like he has screwed his life up so bad... I suggested that maybe he call the couseling service offered thru my job. He said maybe... I said you talk to NO ONE but her and I and you need someone else...

We got better and then went to lunch and the movies with the kids. We got to the house and H shleped wood up to our wood holder and did stuff around here. When he came in and was done I said his Mom called me and I did not share any more than I already have though she was pressing and then H got down again. He said he should just file for D, end it with me, end it with Ow and then NOBODY wins...

H alluded to the fact that Ow is pressuring for him to file again ('well indirectly') and I said how will that make yours and her sitch any better right now? H agreed and told her that too..

I said we are still in turmoil and it's only been 1 week in the apt - too soon to make any rash decisions. H said he's just tired of the lies - I said I have not been lying and he agreed... I think Ow is pressuring H big time and he is lashing out to me. H wants me to help solve their problems though he knows I do NOT want to discuss her at all and she came up to much as it was... I once again brought up him talking to someone and he says you know I hate to ever ask for help with anything (so true)...

I said if he just wants to do things with the kids - like this movie just to tell me and he said no he enjoyed having me along - I cannot win. I basically have encouraged him to get the apt to see Ow on his own schedule - how much more do I give the man. I am so tired of all of this and now I feel the roller coaster going back downhill again...

Any advice?????