You guys just don’t seem to get what I’m trying to say and you keep going off on tangents that have nothing to do with my main point. I understand a girl’s relationship with her father is important in determining her future relationships. But the father can’t teach the daughter how to be a girl, he can only show her what healthy male acceptance should be like. The mother teaches the girl how to be a woman. The girl gets confidence from a good role model set by the mother, which in turn helps the girl to understand how to be comfortable with men. If the mother does not set a good model, the girl will be lost in her femininity and try to act like something else, maybe a man.
There are two separate issue here that I am talking about. I was not initially focusing on the father-daughter relationship. I was talking about the mother-daughter relationship and how that could in turn influence the father-daughter relationship.
FWIW, I perceive my relationship with my daughters to be along the lines of what Mojo describes. I do a lot of activities with them, though this has dropped of as they move into high school. So I am spending more time now with S9.
