I was a questioner...I would ask the same thing in a million different ways...because I always thought if he understood my question he would have agreed with my reasoning....well he understood my question...he just disagreed with me...and I couldn't accept that...so I worked on accepting his answers without giving him the 3rd degree...
I also worked on be less argumentive....more amiable....I worked on really listening to him....validating his feelings instead of trying to solve his problems...
I worked on being more patient with my son...developing closer relationships with my kids...
These were the differences he saw...plus I worked on being more positive about others and not imputing wrong motive to others... you know how when a waitress is rude...or someone cuts you off in traffic...instead of reacting in kind...I learned to reason that maybe something was going on in their life that they were having a hard time with...
I basically did a 180 with my own personality...but I am still me...I still know how to stand up for what I believe in...but now I am careful about what I insist upon....
