Look at the positive things...H noticed you, comment about looking tanned...H was cordial before he left....
And YES STOP SNOOPING!!!....I know how hard this is...I went so far as to activate GPS on my H's phone because he had moved away...I drove myself crazy until one night my D19 asked me why I was tracking him....I said I needed to know where he was...and she said WHY?...I realized it was about control...and I had lost control...and couldn't make him come home...but I could sure continue to drive him away...so I got rid of the GPS...I really had more peace then before trying to figure out why he was where he was at that time of day....it drove me nuts!
As for the trip...keep the calendar in sight....when it gets to that day be ready....if he has forgotten and changes his mind so be it...if he remembers and wants to go alone...so be it...if he remembers and decides to go and still wants you to go...so be it....UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES do you call his parents and explain any absenses!!!....Let him do it...and if he doesn't...they will call him!!!
If he doesn't say anything about the March Vegas trip....just get ready and go...have a friend go with you...and have a great time!!!....
Just keep control of you...you can do that...stop questioning and inquiring...now is not the time to figure anything out...I know my H went to counseling because I begged him to go...it did no good...he would take me out on the weekends because I asked him to thinking he needed to see me and then he would want to be with me...it did no good...when he moved away that was his passive way of saying I DON'T WANT TO SEE YOU OR BE WITH YOU...I had to accept that he was going out on his own without me...I had to let go...it was hard but now I think that had I kept the pressure on him he might have come back only to leave for good...or he may have not come back at all...by backing off I allowed him to work on his own issues....while I worked on mine...then we did start seeing each other again there was a noticable difference in me...one that made him think for the first time "maybe"....that was all I needed to keep going...
