Again....I didn't mean to be harsh...but I felt what I said needed to be said...
I did not want to imply judgement on you either...we are human and we sin...plain and simple...it is good that you are asking God for forgiveness...ask him for strength and guidance...
I also hope you didn't do this as revenge...I think you should probably think about your comment "what I was saying is that sometimes after all of the gut wrenching pain our H's have put upon us it would be a nice turn of events to have them feel the pain."...go back the Biblical definition of LOVE...it doesn't keep account of injury...it does not become provoked...it does not rejoice with unrighteousness....IF you TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY love your H then you don't want him to feel the kind of pain you have felt...
Again...You want to stay away from assuming....how did you find out she went there???....a man came to my state to visit me...we stayed at a hotel near the beach...BUT I had my own room and he had his...we didn't even kiss...not that he didn't want to...but I had my moral strength in line...I would only have crossed that line with him if I was divorced...and I was SURE that any future with H was out of the question...
I am not trying to be self-righteous here...I have made my share of mistakes...I have sinned seriously in my past...but when in a very sensitive situation and a vulnerable one...you really need to make sure and keep your guard up...a smart woman learns from her mistakes...a wise woman learns from the smart woman's mistakes....so keep reading...learn from the weaknesses and mistakes of others...it will help strengthen you...and you will begin to feel better...
I don't think anyone here is going to shun you...I know I won't...like I said, I feel sad for you because I know what guilt can do....and you will still find this place to be your lifeline...it is good that you don't have to see this man again...keep your determination...really examine your strength for love of your H...even during this time....I focused on "Love endures all things. Love never fails."...for me to say I loved my H I had to believe that I could endure all things...and that I would not fail....
Again...I really am not trying to come across harsh...but I don't want to candy coat the truth either....I won't say it was alright or that he deserved it....but I will be here to support you in getting back on track to save your marriage...you will need it because this will add to the complications at hand...
And please...for your own piece of mind...STOP assuming!!! I know I would be devistated if my H accused me of anything with that other man because I KNOW I didn't do anything immoral with him...while you desserve the truth...your H still says he hasn't been physical...you have to let it go at that....
I will tell you that from my own perspective...when I was a teen and my father accused me of doing things I hadn't done...I would rebeliously do them because if figured if I was going to be punished for something I might as well have the enjoyment of doing it...immature thinking, yes...but then your H could be there and you would not want your accusations to be the thing that nudged him across the line....yes it is his decision...but we all bear responsibility for actions and our reactions...
Take care...read more....get strong...LOVE never fails!
