I agree that it must begin with a friendship, but while these MLCer's are in replay a friendship isn't possible. The LBS can be pleasant to them while setting boudaries. This way down the road a friendship can start being built again.Idon't know about you , but my H has no desire to be friends with me right now.He can't even carry on a conversation with me - no eye contact , very uncomfortable . He's just not capable of it at the present time. My hopes are that he will begin to respect me again and feel safe around me given some time.
I really don't give H any reason to be uncomfortable around me as I am always cheerful and do not meantion Ow.
