Nicole, I guess the combination of the site changing and going on vacation kind of threw me off the boards for a while. I still haven't figured out the new site, but it's not way up there on my list right now.
You can say "I told you so" all you want. It would be music to my ears. That's what we keep asking for on these board, right? Someone to "tell us" what to do, and have it be the right thing.
You're advice to call him every weekend or more for a few weeks (turned into 6 or 7 weeks) regardless of how much he reciprocated was good advice in my situation. Not what the DB book implies. But it was a 180 for me.
He called me the evening I got back from vacation and the first thing out of my mouth was "it's been a long time, it's good to hear your voice." But since you recommended it, I'll use the very next opportunity to let him know how much I like hearing from him regularly.
This June H will be transfering and finding out if he's being promoted. If he is promoting, he will transfer AGAIN within a year. So the plan is to wait until June to make plans for S4 and I to move. Personally, the way life at work is going, I just want to move as soon as possible, even if it means moving again right away. But, I can see the logic on holding off on putting the house on the market until June. It would be a better time to sell the house any way.
