Hi OldFool I found your thread. I had been looking for it for a while. You were like a ghost. I haven't gotten through all of it but it sounds like you are on the road home, that is so good to hear. I would say your wife is who she was before. People learn and grow and mature, but their basic personality remains the same in my opinion. She may have grown now and sees things different. Your hard work and devotion no doubt have shown her who you really are. You have proven Dbing really works. It is natural to question whether you want to go back after the hell she put you through. She is moving towards you so all the hurt you had suppressed when you were DBing now feels safe to come up now to be felt and resolved. Forgive her my friend, set the hurt and yourself free. You were a model Db student and now teacher and guide to many others. You have earned your success also. Sometimes I think, what would OldFool do in this instance. I hope I can be as successful as you are. Take care, 4
