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[want2believe]

Quick updatde as I never seem to have time anymore.

WAH is going to be moving back in. WAH brought up the subject of him moving back in 3 more times before I agreed, and then only after some discussions. I must admit, prior to the last talk, I was to the point I wasn't going to let him move back in unless I noticed some change in him thinking this was all my fault. I told him I wanted to him to be sure that this was what he wanted because I did not want him leaving again after moving back in. We agreed on some things we both would work on, including spending more time together and making that a priority. At the final discussion before I told him he could move back in, I told him that him that having the affair was totally his choice/decision. He acutally agreed that it was, which surprized me a little, but was one of the major reason I agreed to let him move back in.

Note that even after I told him he could move back in, WAH spent the next three nights at his place. I wasn't upset by this. In fact I was happy about it because it meant he was thinking about what we had said, and hopefully going through a little depression, one of the final stages of MLC.

That weekend, he finally took me over to see his place. We agreed he'd move things back slowly, since he still had the place for another month. WAH hasn't stayed there since, although
I couple of times when he went over there for something, I thought he might since he was there for quite a while.

Since then, WAH has been more normal, and we've spent some good time together. He even started wearing his wedding ring again.
I can still tell he needs time alone at times, and I try to let him have it. I even noticed a tear in his eye one day after I got back for someplace, and he'd had time alone. I don't push him, I try to give him space during these times, and re-enforce that I want to be with him and I'm happy he's back. But I do remind him when I think he's going back to bad habits - like one morning he left for work and didn't say goodbye. I called him and told him this calmly Said it was a bad habit we needed to work on elminating. He agreed and seemed happy I called.

We still have things to work on, for both of us, but I'm hoping we're coming out of the woods here. I know this is significantly shorter than most MLC, and I can only hope and pray that he doesn't go back there. Got to run. Will try to post another update sometime soon.