NJ wrote I guess I am just feeling a bit sorry for myself over everything I have been through. It's not the overriding feeling, however---I am hopeful that things will continue to improve. Maybe I am being overdramatic with the hate word...more like anger and resentment and defensiveness. I won't dwell on it and instead I will be grateful for the changes.
You know how lower-level 4-ish this is, don't you? You don't have to give in to the negative side of the 4. You can reach higher on the developmental scale. I'm glad to see you're doing that.
10 no chocolate 8-9 1 piece 5-7 2 pieces 2-4 3 pieces 1 4 pieces 0 the whole box!
Are you insane?! If I had a chocolate for every time sex was bad or non-existent..well..you know where I'm going here. But I did buy these yummy dark chocolate nuggets with chopped almonds the other day. Boy are they good. And ironically, I think I had 2 pieces yesterday. That just about fits on your chocolate allowance scale. Oh, and I went to the gym for an hour so it all balances out.
Lil, I was wondering if maybe I am really an enneagram 1 who under stress becomes more 4-like, instead of a 4, who when pulled together, heads towards 1. What do you think?
Anyway, it's a happy Jewish holiday today called Purim, where you eat these cookies called Hamentashin, and there are chocolate filled ones! Life is good.
Are you insane?! If I had a chocolate for every time sex was bad or non-existent..well..you know where I'm going here.
Sing it, sister.
According to the book "You On A Diet" which I highly recommend, people tend to eat "Bulky, fill you up food, like crackers and pasta" when they are "Lonely or sexually frustrated.". They tend to eat sugar when they are depressed. So I'm thinking my marital cookie addiction was a combination of feeling lonely and depressed due to sexual frustration. I was never overweight before I was married and I've dropped another 5 lbs. without even thinking about it in the last week.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
According to the book "You On A Diet" which I highly recommend, people tend to eat "Bulky, fill you up food, like crackers and pasta" when they are "Lonely or sexually frustrated.". They tend to eat sugar when they are depressed. So I'm thinking my marital cookie addiction was a combination of feeling lonely and depressed due to sexual frustration. I was never overweight before I was married and I've dropped another 5 lbs. without even thinking about it in the last week.
I can relate to this. I've always been a person who turned to carbs and sugar, especially sugar, for comfort. Now I find out that as a 4, sugar is one of my addictions. In the last few weeks as I've made some real progess with my M and myself, I noticed my sugar/snack cravings dropped way down. I've also dropped a few pounds without even thinking about it.
According to the book "You On A Diet" which I highly recommend, people tend to eat "Bulky, fill you up food, like crackers and pasta" when they are "Lonely or sexually frustrated.". They tend to eat sugar when they are depressed.
Jenny, some of that seems to be true for me. I have to tell myself that my logical, checkbook balancing mind tells me there is going to be an audit. Eat the stuff I crave and the impending audit will show who has been dipping his hand in to the company cookie and candy jar.
Sometimes I think I can compensate by drinking a diet soda but I hear diet sodas are another thing that maintain a persons craving level and might increase it. Maybe I just better crack the whip on myself and do the "whole grain' stale bread and water the only, thing to save me from myself.
I just wanted you ladies to know this isn't a female only thing, craving carbs and sweets. It reminds me of one TV article "Grab Your Mate Instead of Your Plate." I wish it was that easy.
Lil, I was wondering if maybe I am really an enneagram 1 who under stress becomes more 4-like, instead of a 4, who when pulled together, heads towards 1. What do you think?
That's a VERY interesting question. I'll have to think about it.
Have you actually taken the test on the enneagram site?
