NJ wrote
I guess I am just feeling a bit sorry for myself over everything I have been through. It's not the overriding feeling, however---I am hopeful that things will continue to improve. Maybe I am being overdramatic with the hate word...more like anger and resentment and defensiveness. I won't dwell on it and instead I will be grateful for the changes.

You know how lower-level 4-ish this is, don't you? You don't have to give in to the negative side of the 4. You can reach higher on the developmental scale. I'm glad to see you're doing that.