Also, my father did try to censor my reading materials a bit when I was young. I can remember him throwing away a copy of "Valley of the Dolls" that I was reading. (Being Mojo, I of course fished it out later on the down low) but after a while he kind of accepted the fact that I was mature enough to handle reading stuff like that. We both really liked reading Raymond Chandler, Ross Thomas, John D. MacDonald, Robert Parker and those books had quite a bit of sex in them. Of course, he also introduced me to P.G. Wodehouse and NPR and a lot of his philosophy of life about things like politics and economics etc. My father came from a large rowdy Irish clan on his mother's side but on his father's side he came from a long line of Unitarian lawyers, inventors, town founders, hermits, writers that goes back to the second voyage of the Mayflower (Mojo could join the Mayflower Society- can you imagine?-LOL). Part of the reason I had the argument with my H about not wanting to buy new shoes is that my father taught me that it's wrong to spend money on stuff like shiny new shoes if you don't have your financial situation firmly in hand otherwise because to some extent capital = liberty and it's better to be a free person in shabby shoes than a slave in shiny shoes. Sorry, I digress. The point I am trying to make is that IMO at some point in the relationship between a father and a daughter the best option becomes doing your best to become a sort of friend/mentor.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
