HELP!!!! INFIDELITY AGAIN!!!!

[iluvme]

I'd just like to respond to your realestate business. Please consult a lawyer. It can only be to your benefit. You don't have to let H know if your are DB but you need to know what can happen if things get ugly.

Trust is still there between you guys but I think that may be tested when you see him overtly in R with OW. He may not trust you and may do things that could financially harm you. I never thought my H of 13 yrs would strangle me financially but he did. He feels that I am only entitled to what the law will give me. Of course, he left out a few things in his presentation to me. That's why i said no mediator.

If documents are in both of your names then figure out what you can do to protect your assets. Also, if you refinance....would that be in both of your names? Any loans, debt etc... If you have cash, protect it now. I am not saying that you should steal joint money but just know where all the money is coming and going. Don't take it for granted.

I never handled the finances in the 13 yrs that I was married. Just had my DD, child #3 and he says he wants D before DD turned 2. He locked up alot of cash in the children's educaton fund. He closed our joint acct and proceeded to reopen accts only in his name so i had no access. I saw him doing this over 2 -3 wks and I never stepped in even though I questioned him. But I never believed that he would "swindle" me. I was stupid and should have got an attrny to lock the accts. I was afraid he would hate me and have no chance of reconciliation. Well, it didn't matter b/c things got ugly and I'd rather have some money than none.

I'm not trying to scare you but it is good to know the legalities just in case OW has him under a spell. He will have no regrets about taking what he feels is "his".