he actually cared for you, his teasing may have been the only way he knew at the time to engage with females
I think mrs cac and I have both already said that we understand that our fathers did not know any better and-- at least from my pov-- there was no malice or harm intended from my father. I know that as a 58-year old. I didn't know that as an 11-year old. The fact remains that I didn't feel safe with him. I didn't like spending time alone with him and I rarely did. My mother's way of protecting me and giving me tools to cope with him was to say: "ignore your father."
For a mother to say to her daughter in response to a father's teasing, "“Well, your father’s just jealous because he doesn’t have boobs, and yours are going to be gorgeous, so be proud of them” is yukky on many levels IMHO.
I can't imagine my bf ever making any teasing remarks about his daughters' bodies (and at age 17, they were both 34DD). But I can picture his ex-W making a remark like the one you suggested... and I still think it's yukky.
I'd be interested in Mojo's comments om this discussion because she had a very good relationship with her father and not so good a relationship with her mother. Mojo, did your dad tease you about your budding sexuality? Can you picture a father doing that in a way that would still feel okay and safe to a girl?
cobra, how can you know how a mother and daughter relate to each other when they're alone? Are you hiding in the closet?
