If your father made strong sexual comments, I agree that is inappropriate, I already said that. But teasing on a level like kids would do just does not seem that damaging to me, unless there is a lot of insecurity going on, which there obviously was. I believe that for girls, building a sense of security is more dependent on a strong mother than a father. Sure you had nothing to do with your father’s comments. Yes, you were a child and a victim. When did I ever say you were responsible? I said your mother had a role to play in giving you the strength to overcome these types of things, not to mention protecting you in the first place, if protection was truly called for. The kind of thing I had in mind for your mother to say would be along the lines of “Well, your father’s just jealous because he doesn’t have boobs, and yours are going to be gorgeous, so be proud of them.” This is where I was trying to draw in the Corri analogy.
I do know how girls and mothers relate to one another. It is all about being vulnerable to one another. Men and boys don’t relate like that, but they are taught from an early age to respect the feelings of girls. All I am saying is that girls could be taught to understand the way boys relate and understand that teasing from boys and men does not mean they think the girl is bad, deformed, or anything of the sort, but that is just how males dance around their discomfort of being vulnerable. They aren’t used to it.
MrsCAC4, I don’t know your father and maybe he is a mean, vindictive SOB, but if he wasn’t and he actually cared for you, his teasing may have been the only way he knew at the time to engage with females. You guys are way too hung up on the superiority of your feelings. Try to understand things a little more form the male POV (and I am not including male sexual harassment).
