Do some research for yourself on DHEA...when my sex drive was really low this kicked it up big time for me...you can get it at a health food store but I got mine from a formula pharmacy....I had to get a Rx from my doctor and then the pharmacist made it for me and the potency was consistant....25 mg did the trick for me...
At least he still feels comfortable with you...I think I would have made a suggestive comment in a joking way with him....
Yes...work on the "one more thing"...he will see this for what it is...you clinging to him...not attractive...
As for the trip...he knows you have the tickets...he knows he told you that you could go....leave it at that....if there are any changes HE will let you know!...DO NOT ASK HIM ABOUT THE TRIP AGAIN....get ready whent the time comes...
There were times when I did give up...when I felt all hope was gone...I actually filed for D...got within 5 days of it being final and met with H...we both went to court and asked to call it off...I thought H and I would start to work on things...instead he disappeared for 6 months!!!....so a few months after I found out he was still alive...I filed again!...so there were some real times of dispair...times I felt I should move on...even met someone who flew across country to meet me...spent a weekend at the beach (separate rooms, no sex)...and it made me realize that I was NOT over the love of my H....and that I would not be able to live with myself if I got involved with someone and H decided to come out of the tunnel to find me gone....I decided then I had to stand strong longer...I didn't know how long that would be...he gave me no hope the months before he moved back to town....
Our reconciliation came out of the blue....sort of...he moved back to town....started coming by to see our son...I asked to go out with just him a few times to talk about son and business...usually this went well...I did win tickets to a concert but it was a late night and I work early (school bus driver)....I needed someone to drive me...I asked him if he would go and drive....well we went...had a few too many drinks...after the concert we went to the beach to sober up...he poured his guts out too me...crying, appologizing, professing his love for me, asking me to forgive him....wanting to be intimate with me....upto that night he wouldn't even give me a kiss...only a hug if I asked...well, needless to say a lot of lines were crossed that I felt negated my ability to divorce him and be with someone else...the next day he remember nothing!...I was crushed...but we talked...I said I thought things were moving too fast...we needed to take things slowly...HA...sometimes it was slow and sometimes (usually if he was drinking) it was fast and furious....but in time we found a balance and he agreed that he wanted to put the family back together...that was how it all started...not sure if we hadn't gone out and gotten drunk how things might have played out...but in my heart I felt we would get together if he would just see me and see I had really listened to what he said...and truly had made changes...he was hesitant about how long they would last...but I was determined to become a NEW ME...and I did this for me...not him...I wanted this...I wanted it to be real and lasting no matter what..
Finally I got to a point where I didn't NEED H...but I still wanted him...I was more attractive to H then when I needed him...if this makes sense...
You have a big job...it will take a looooong time....even after H and OW were over he still had feelings for her to deal with...it was a year after they broke things off that he was crying to his sister about her....his sister thought they were still together and planning on marriage the way he was talking....that is how deep this OW had gotten into H...so it was good that he stayed away...and dealt with those feelings on his own...I would have complicated things...
So...make your list...and go to work...this is your most important job right now....becoming the woman you WANT to be...
