Cobra: I am talking about teasing sort of comments that one girl might say to another but for some reason are considered inappropriate for a parent. To me, these types of comments could set up a guilt complex in a girl or they could not.
Mrs. cac: First off, girls don't typically tease each other the way boys do. They form cliques, they talk about each other, they try to out-dress each other. Apparently you have no clue how adolescent girls behave.
Mrs. cac, I had exactly the same response as you did when I read cobra's comment: girls don't tease each other the way boys do.
Cobra, you do not know how adolescent girls relate to each other and I also think you do not know how mothers and daughters relate to each other.
What I meant when I said that my mother's response was "ignore your father," was the following:
You suggested that any harm done by a father teasing her adolescent daughter about her budding sexuality might be mitigated ("balanced," I believe, was your word) by appropriate coaching by a strong mother. You suggested the mother coaching the daughter was a parallel with the way a father might coach a son in how to treat a woman.
There is no parallel.
When my father teased me, my mother would say, "just ignore him."
In your fantasy, what should my hypothetically strong mother have said to turn this potentially damagaging comment by my father into something good for me? How should she have "balanced" him?
Yeah, a mother should protect her daughter, as Mrs. cac said, by telling the father/brother/uncle to cut it out. But I'm guessing my mother's response might be typical: "just ignore him."
I was talking about fathers teasing young daughters inappropriately. What on earth this has to do with Corri's journey as an adult is beyond me.
