One question for you...Do you feel like when you ask a question or give an example of something and H answers that maybe H didn't understand what you meant because the answer isn't what YOU had expected him to say?
(BTW, how do you do that whole "quote" thing where you put someone else's quote in your reply? I fiddled with it but couldn't make it work...)
At any rate, I'm glad you asked me that question, as it made me think a lot. I think that what you stated may be part of it, but more so I think it's that when he doesn't give me the answer I WANT to hear, I keep grilling him and asking the question a different way and/or keep coming up with reasoning that I explain to him that I think will get him to believe and say what I do want to hear. Does that make sense? It's so hard, because he doesn't communicate with me about R issues. He mainly just answers questions I ask, and it's like pulling teeth. I have no doubt that a lot of that is just because of the way I communicate, but how do I change that dynamic? What worked for you? I just feel like I keep reasoning with him in hopes he will just see my point of view, because he doesn't speak up about how/why he has his point of view.
It helps me so much to have people ask me questions like you did about how I feel and how I do things, as he does not do that, and I want so desperately to get "critiqued" on what I'm doing so that I can improve. So thank you for asking me that. It really helps.
