Well I bought DR today. I will start reading it later on tonight. I appreciate all the good advice I am getting from this web site and you all have been so kind. It is so hard learning to detach. It seems that little things remind me of memories we had together and it makes me sad. I am trying to remain positive. It is hard when you miss them sooooo much. I miss him being here to talk to and joke with. I miss being able to call him any time I wanted to. I feel like I have to walk on egg shells and yes it is worth it but seems he is the one that should be walking on egg shells. I havent talked to him today yet he usually will call to say good night to the kids or talk to them in the evening time. I will just let it go to voice mail then give them the option of calling back. I sure hope that detaching works. I just dont understand why it takes them so much longer to miss their families than to miss their OW when they are away from them. He cant even come visit the kids without her sending texts. He always calls when he gets here and when he leaves here. Such a tight leash, he has never been like that. Wont he tire of that? Doesnt that show that she is insecure? It is hard for me to understand the fog he is in and how he can just walk out on his kids not once but twice. The second time he left on Feb 5th, our 8th year old boy was crying no daddy dont leave , daddy dont go ran into the garage out to his car where he was shoving his clothes in. How do you walk away from that?
