Maybe you should explain how you get ready for your encounters and suggest that he do something similar that gets him in the mood for the scheduled time.
Expecting you to always be ready whenever the mood hits him (likely his definition of spontaneity) isn't really fair. Agreeing to be in the mood, or at least amenable to sex on a schedule shouldn't be a far stretch for him, but he will have to stretch a bit.
You may have to stretch a bit and meet him half way on the teasing/flirting/hard-to-get game.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
