I am the HD in our marriage....H has LD...has been suffering with ED as of late too...I attributed it mostly to guilt feelings...about past abuse (sexual and emotional) and recent diabetes diagnosis....also noticed the more he drank the more amorous he became and the less hard....he is in recovery now so that is no longer an issue...
At times he is good but I noticed the lack of morning woodies...and as someone else mentioned needs more then the average stimulation to really get going...and keep going
I do know that anything that causes hardening of the arteries will also cause ED because....well it takes blood flow to make an E and if the arteries harden....well there is no "hardening" for the guy...no elasticity means no engorgement...no E
MrsCac...you are being very insightful about your experiences...I do hope this helps you and MrCac to eventually create the physical bond that should be desired in a marriage..
About the sense of smell and it's acuteness (something very common in Autism)....I have a very good sense of smell and it wasn't till H mentioned it to me that he noticed I sniffed him when we would hug....and that I did this to my babies...and in turn my kids now do this when they hug us.....but I also understand being able to smell the "real" person and not the smoke or cologne...I can relate to the smell of natural man...slightly manly smell...not strong BO but just that musk-like smell....I love it
Things are getting better between us....he has been home for almost a year now...and finally on our anniversary said "I love you." ....haven't heard that in a long time
Well I know I jumped in mid-stream here...hi, my name is Lin...have some control issues but am working on them...H has passive/agressive issues in response to my control issues...wow, what a couple we make
