Ugh. I would definitely have the same feelings in your sitch.

I have to admit, I've spent a teensy moment here and there dreaming of H flying me to someplace tropical, putting a nice big 3-diamond ring on my finger and thanking me for being the most wonderful, beautiful, patient, wise, SEXY woman on the planet. Sigh. Reality is, he's never been that guy, most likely never will.

So I probably will go find my beach with a girlfriend. \:\) Nothing vindictive about it...the plain old fact is, if he's not going to do it for me, gotta take care of myself! Maybe someday down the road. I'm glad your H at least mentioned future vacation possibilities.

You have no reason to feel like you aren't completely in the right to go visit your family.

Me-36
H-36
3 young children
Married-14y