I just wanted to chime in here and make sure that you understand some things for certain about your husband's affair.
It is NOT your fault that your husband had/is having an affair. That is 100% HIS choice.
You are 100% responsible for your contribution to the state of the marriage pre-affair, as is he. Again, that does NOT make you responsible for the affair.
I appreciate your attempt to rectify the sexual issues in your marriage. I think that you should be positive that the affair has ended, and that you should both be tested for STDs before you continue your exploration of a new sexual relationship.
Regardless of your response to my opinion, at the least, insist that he wear a condom for any oral or intercourse contact until the affair is proven to be over and you have both been tested.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
