Well I had b-day party for my D10 last night and my ex had to come by to drop off some clothes for my D. As my ex was pulling up my brother was walking out so she chatted with him for a few minutes just as my GF was walking out to her car. They have never met before but the both said Hello. I get a phone call this AM from the ex wanting to know when I was bringing D home. She was still sleeping so we started BS'ing about some other stuff. The topic turns to my gf and she starts asking some probing questions. What does she do, where does she live, etc.. The convo was pleasant. This is the longest convo I have with her on the phone in 3 years. My gf owns her own business, drives a BMW and is very attractive. I am not sure if my wife was being nosy because she thinks I have moved on to better things and she hasn't or she is feeling me out? She made one comment saying if she drives a BMW then the ex wife should have a Mercedes, joking around.
My friends think I should show her no interest and let her chase me, but then again the are all very stubborn males and would never DB. They think she should have to grovel.
My counselor says to pursue a little, test the waters. She was hurt very much by me in the past, not showing her attention and quality time that her wall is finally coming down. If I can start meeting her emotional needs she will draw closer to me. Everything indicates that she is much more comfortable around me.
My ex has a hard time admitting making mistakes and more than likely will not come right and say lets date.
DB'ing says not to pursue, don't say I love you, dont't probe.
