I found a book called "Walking on Eggshells" and it's corresponding workbook of the same name for people dealing with someone who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder.
There's not many books on the subject of BPD as a whole, and this is the ONLY one I could find specifically geared towards people who have a BPD in their life. It's not for the BPD sufferer, as all the other books are, but for those of us trying to understand and cope with a loved one suffering from this disorder.
I know that SO has NOT yet been diagnosed by a doctor, and until he is, everything is simply an estimated guess on my part. Over the past few years, I have done a lot of research on numerous personality disorders and this one appears to be "it".
I don't want anyone to think I'm diagnosing him myself or anything, but I'd bet my right boobie that this IS what he suffers from. I know that a lot of personality disorders are very similar to one another, and in no way am I basing everything on this one book. He doesn't know I have this book, he's really not the "book" type, but I swear, too many of the things in there - it's like someone peeked in our window, took notes and put them in the book, word for word. It's eerie.
The best thing about the workbook is it helps ME. It's already done a lot to remind me of what I want from MY life; given me ways to deal with SO's issues (and so far, the few I've tried have worked!!) And, I'm only about 1/3 of the way through it. It's pointed out things that I had forgotten about myself; and simultaneously gives me a better understanding of how SO's mind operates. Or rather, gives me a better understanding of how a person with BPD processes emotions and why they act certain ways. Very insightful. Although I don't ever want to have to recommend it to anyone.
