Three books I think you need to buy and read thoroughly are:
“The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands” by Laura Schlessinger “The Way of the Superior Man” by David Dieda “Passionate Marriage” by David Schnarch
Without the knowledge from these three sources, you will not get the full picture of what people are discussing on this board, and you will take much longer in fully understanding the mind of your H, and men in general. This first book will show you why your H feels as her feels and why the idea of MLC is completely bogus. The second will give you an idea of what to expect from your H as far as his purpose in life is concerned and how that differs from yours. This is a VERY important book for HIM to read. The third will help address the issue you are having with discussing your vulnerability with your H. Schnarch will explain how you may be making (or may have made) your H responsible for your anxiety, then getting angry with him because he does not read your mind properly, among other topics.
I strongly recommend you not put off reading these books.
