It's been a while so thought I'd post. Still haven't got the feel of this new on-line community look. The big news is that I have to move again and leave this wonderful place. The question now is will I move where they tell me or retire and move to wherever I want. Spoke with the xw and asked if we moved back there would she start a fight for joint custody, she gave an emphatic no but when I asked her to send me a letter with that, she hasn't yet "because it's not high on her list and she keep forgetting". I think it's more her divorced friends advising her to not send anything in writing. Was feeling froggy so went even further and asked her if we move back if she thought we could try dating. She said she didn't know what she wanted. (???) Rather than press her I gave her a "pass" and she took it. Maybe she'll call back or e-mail before I have to decide, maybe she won't. Still think that in many ways she sees me as "the enemy" and can't appreciate the changes I've gone through or maybe is scared to think of the possibility.
I've got a week to decide the fate of S14, S16 & me. S16 wants to go to the assignment we got on the east coast, S14 wants to go back to CO to be near D19/mom/old friends. Me, I flip flop back and forth every couple of hours. If I stay in and we go, would be three years minimum (w/very good pay) there and by that time would think there would be no getting back with ex but suppose one never knows. On the other side, if I just up and out, have no job lined up although just finished my Master's degree so should be marketable.
The GAL has been going well, dating more and have one that am really starting to like so may just retire and stay here, don't know. Whatever way things go, have reached the point of comfortableness that things will be OK no matter what.
Any thoughts or suggestions out there? Thanks, RonJon
