Had a sex talk with H tonight...very cool because we both really listened to one another. I told him I wanted to be more playful, teasing, and fun for him, but it was backfiring on me. I explained that I seem to do best when we have some sort of schedule. I said that I understood a schedule takes away from spontaneity, but it's really how I function best. So we came up with a plan to have set days for sexual play, and that we would both try to think of ways to keep things from getting regimented and boring. We agreed that the sex days did not have to include intercourse, as long as we were having some form of intimacy. It was an open, optimistic conversation...I felt we were trying to address each other's needs.
