I didn't buy the e-book, but I do subscribe to the newsletters. I used some other material not unlike the Making Her Happy but more geared towards dating since there was a time I thought for sure I was going to be back into the dating scene. In the end, it is about creating and maintaining attraction.
Sign up for the newsletters at a minimum - you may be intrigued enough to buy the e-book. It is good stuff and I'll tell you - it works.
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
OK here's something I'd like to get some input on. There's a weed patch by the front door. W has been wanting to replant it for two years. Her and the kid's painstakingly pulled the old plantings and weeds last year. I recommended spraying them so they would'nt come back, and my idea was shotdown. Anyway, nothing was ever replanted so of course all the weeds and former plantings grew back.
This is one of those weekends that I have nothing planned so I've offered to work around the house. First I offered to finish stripping wallpaper in the bathroom. Her response, well OK if you want to. It's like pulling teeth to even get her blessing to strip wallpaper if you can believe it. She gets defensive or a little insecure because she started the job two years ago when it was just HER house and now I'm there and blah blah blah. So I'm going to do it anyways, and not worry about her insecurities.
Next I ask if she wanted me to spray those weeds in front to save them from pulling weeds again and they go just go straight to planting. NO! No explanation, nothing just NO! It's really hard living with a control freak! I'm an old farm boy and know how to deal with weeds and plants and things and it is so frustrating to be strapped into a child seat on this stuff.
Last year it was the lawn. Her lawn has looked like crap ever since she moved in five years ago. Why, simply because she did'nt water enough, and she cuts it too low in the summer. She's not one to tinker with things, change comes VERY hard for her. Last summer she was gone with the kids for two weeks and when she came home the lawn looked nearly new. I pampered it and gave it what it wanted and it just took off. What I get in return is attitude. She hates it when I do things for her, especially when I do them better. It's always been that way, since day one. Her insecurity shackles our M. It's much better than it was pre-separation, but she's doing a little back slide right now.
Sometimes I feel like she would prefer it if I came home, said nothing, did dishes, bring money, shut up, and go to sleep. Not to mention pretend that we're a happy couple at church and in public. Our beautiful R seems to be dwindling as the days go by and she does'nt want to talk about it, do anything about it, or even acknowledge it. Let's just be friends, co-parents, and stay together until the kid's are old enough. That's basically, sadly where we are right now. Her family motto is to NEVER discuss sensitive issues, reality, or have disagreements. Just ignore the problems and vent about relatives behind their back.
A pretty negative view from COG alright. Well if AmyC get's to vent today then so do I darnit. I'm gonna kick some ass today! I'm prayin for the courage to step outside the box. Run naked through the house, or do whatever it takes to change things up. I'm bored off my ass and I'm ready to stir things up a little.
Have a nice weekend yaall!
Love,
COG
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I did play a little game with her last night though. I got into bed and snuggled over next to her. I only laid there a minute or so and then said "OK that's it, I don't want you getting too excited" and I moved back to my side of the bed.
A pretty negative view from COG alright. Well if AmyC get's to vent today then so do I darnit. I'm gonna kick some ass today! I'm prayin for the courage to step outside the box. Run naked through the house, or do whatever it takes to change things up. I'm bored off my ass and I'm ready to stir things up a little.
Luckily you are finally doing things to start the 'attraction' buttons to be pushed. I think you are at a turning point.
Sign up for the newsletters at a minimum - you may be intrigued enough to buy the e-book. It is good stuff and I'll tell you - it works.
I bought the E_book and it was good.
However, if you sign up for the E-mail's (at makingherhappy) he now has a FREE download called 'break up busting 101' which is excellent. There is a link to it at the end of every one of his e-mails.
Go sign up and get the book. (COG, you too).
It has made a great difference in my relationship.
What would happen if you did something as a "gift"--an act of service? Not one of these things now, since she's been so adamant, but something else. How would she react?
Ya the Waynes World thing. Well heres what happened the other night. I went on a run, had some fairly short, black runnning shorts on. Got back from my run and put on my new black hightop basketball shoes to break them in. Meanwhile I got my deer rifle out of the closet because I was working on the scope, and I stopped in the kitchen to give my S12 a lecture on good business ethics. So I'm standing there, rifle in hand, high top tennis shoes, short shorts, and I'm having a business discussion with my S. Suddenly I look up and W is in the kitchen laughing at me. I say "what?" She says how funny I look. So I say "oh ya?" So now I tucked my shirt in, and pulled the shorts up as far as they could go, and made a dorky face. The whole house busted up laughing. That's me on a regular basis.
Frank,
I downloaded the book and I'm checking it out, thanks!
AMD,
I do nice stuff for her all the time. But in honor of your suggestion, I'll try to think of something for this weekend. Thank You!
God Bless,
COG
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So I'm standing there, rifle in hand, high top tennis shoes, short shorts, and I'm having a business discussion with my S. Suddenly I look up and W is in the kitchen laughing at me. I say "what?" She says how funny I look. So I say "oh ya?" So now I tucked my shirt in, and pulled the shorts up as far as they could go, and made a dorky face. The whole house busted up laughing. That's me on a regular basis.
You're killing me man, I think I wet myself laughing!
