I understand about taking a break from the BB now and then. Interesting observation about it carrying over into your situation. I'll have to watch for that myself.
Here's a new joke for you:
A woman was at her hairdresser's getting her hair styled for a trip to Rome with her husband. She mentioned the trip to the hairdresser, who responded: "Rome? Why would anyone want to go there? It's crowded and dirty! You're crazy to go to Rome. So, how are you getting there?"
"We're taking Continental," was the reply. "We got a great rate!"
"Continental?" exclaimed the hairdresser." That's a terrible airline. Their planes are old, their flight attendants are ugly, and they're always late.
So, where are you staying in Rome?"
"We'll be at this exclusive little place over on Rome's Tiber River called Teste."
"Don't go any further. I know that place. Everybody thinks its gonna be something special and exclusive, but it's really a dump, the worst hotel in the city! The rooms are small, the service is surly, and they're overpriced.
So, whatcha' doing when you get there?"
"We're going to go to see the Vatican and we hope to see the Pope."
"That's rich," laughed the hairdresser. "You and a million other people trying to see him. He'll look the size of an ant. Boy, good luck on this lousy trip of yours. You're going to need it."
A month later, the woman again came in for a hairdo The hairdresser asked her about her trip to Rome.
"It was wonderful," explained the woman, "not only were we on time in one of Continental's brand new planes, but it was overbooked, and they bumped us up to first class. The food and wine were wonderful, and I had a handsome 28-year-old steward who waited on me hand and foot. And the hotel was great! They'd just finished a $5 million remodeling job, and now it's a jewel, the finest hotel in the city . They, too, were overbooked, so they apologized and gave us their owner's suite at no extra charge!"
"Well," muttered the hairdresser, "that's all well and good, but I know you didn't get to see the Pope."
"Actually, we were quite lucky, because as we toured the Vatican, a Swiss Guard tapped me on the shoulder, and explained that the Pope likes to meet some of the visitors, and if I'd be so kind as to step into his private room and wait, the Pope would personally greet me. Sure enough, five minutes later, the Pope walked through the door and shook my hand! I knelt down and he spoke a few words to me."
Glad to see a post from you Nic. I agree sometimes we just need a break from here. I know I go through spurts or not posting and posting. And yes it seems when I am posting it is because something is going "wrong" or "bad" in my eyes.
Much Love sweetie!
Christy M: 31 H: 33 Married ~ 13 years S12 S8 Bomb 10/05 supposedly ended A 2nd bomb 12/30/05 Separated 01/06 I filed 6/12/07 ~ new ow 3wks after moving out http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1094955&page=0#Post1094955
Sorry for you and your pup. Murmurs often times are not so bad ... I even have one! Keep us posted!
As for being off the boards. I sooo understand. It can be easy to get sucked into giving a play by play of every interaction with Spouse and get caught in the frustration. Easy that way to to feel "at the mercy" of the WAS and their chaos.
Pulling back and focusing back on yourself if a great idea!
Hugs,
Brava
Me: 36 He: 34 no kids Married: 2000 He left: July 05
found you can't believe it only been gone a month or two and look whats changed
I feel like a waw board user and now I decide to come back things have changed so much I can't find my way around anymore and feel a bit lost
mmmmmmmm
can't stay here long but think I have worked out how to find you again whose idea was it to change things maybe they - DB people - are trying to change us by changing themselves
well all I have to say to that is too late I already changed you seem to be doing oik from the glance of the posts
and I was going to change oik to ok but think oik might actually be a better place than ok
We must all be animal lovers, from the looks of it. I am feeling good about my dog since she had the X-ray b/c her heart is not enlarged. I know that a heart murmer isn't always serious (thanks Brava), but the vet is concerned b/c it just showed up and she is only 2. Usually, they do not get it so young. Anyway, she's full of energy.
Last night, I went out to the city's Nuit Blanche (all-nighter). I went with Meet-In and only stayed a few hours, actually. We went dancing at City Hall and also some other stuff. It was a warm night so there were literally thousands of people out. Lots of pretty lights, too, and lots of children. It was fun.
When I go home, I had to put more money on my cell phone, and for some reason, I still have H's phone on my online acct. He has a balance of over $500!!! WTF????? I nearly had a heart attack! I actually tried to check his calls, but thank goodness, the system was down. I haven't done that before and don't want to start now.
Well, I guess I won't have to feel guilty at all for my pup's visit to the cardiologist ($450).
I don't even know how he's paying that bill. Maybe that's why he decided to sock away his bonus money.
Anyway, enough about him. I'm getting all pissed off now--this is why I shouldn't post!
Oh, something good--last week, I stroked him on the arm for a couple of minutes while we talked, and he just smiled at me and didn't run off or anything. It's a tiny step, but it made me very happy.
Have a great day all, and thanks again for thinking of me and my little dog!
Nicola
Life isn't about finding yourself; it's about creating yourself My thread: Trusting God's Plan
I guess there comes a time where we just need to live and be who we are. It seems to me that your interactions with your H seem better again.
As for his court case, I think he is worried about it and this is a good opportunity for you to validate his fears and concerns. There is not much more you can do afterall, he got himself in this situation.
I'm sorry to hear about your dog and hope he is doing okay.
Thank you for slapping me once again on FIB's thread. I know I need to continue to work on not blaming myself so much. I responded to you on my thread.
You are much stronger than I am. I am afraid that I would have checked to see who he was calling. But what you did is a much better idea.
The stroking his arm and him not pulling away or running away is a good sign. I can't even get close enough to mine to look him in the eyes, let alone touch him. No face to face talk at all. I guess it will change all in God's time.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Be well.