Optimist2004 - Thank you so very much for your enlightening response. That was exactly what I needed to hear. This is the support that I was craving on this board. Thank you for checking in once in awhile - that was all I needed to go on. You may have just saved my marriage.

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!!!!!!

Deb

Joy and Sorrow...when one sits alone with you at your board, remember the other is asleep upon your bed.
~Kahlil Gibran

Me: 46
H: 45
Married: 5.0+ years
Bomb: May 17, 2006
0 living children, 2 babies in heaven
1 dog, 2 cats