I read something in one of these threads in this forum, "Piecing ..." that when we get to this forum this is where the real "hard work" begins. I believe that. We will see, my H still has to say the magic words, "let's try again". However, I believe in planning ahead, I've always anticipated the other's moves (sometimes incorrectly of course) but I really think that when your H is ready, just as the pleading, begging, crying episodes didn't get you anywhere in "drawing" them back to you, nor will the distancing or other games we play get them to STAY with you, only showing them the love they so desired when they were with you. I feel that I am better prepared when, yes when, I do get to this phase. Cross your fnigers that it is sooner rather than later. Besides, I like myself better when I have the INTENTION to love the best I can, rather than the worst I can. I really think you are an angel Lisa, whether you were one before or not, you have been reborn. Serenity Sarah
