Dumbfounded, I wrote that thread for people who want to make it work in their marriages. Sometimes after DB'ing, some decide that with all they've learned about themselves and their sits. that they just want to get it over with and start over, that it just isn't worth it. It sounds like that is where you are. I looked for your own thread to read about your sit. but couldn't find one. My H has been trying to change too. So with him trying and me still wanting my M very badly I decided to "fix" the things I did wrong, and one of them was not showing love and affection like I should have. I can understand where if your H is not at all and is still the same that it would be discouraging. I'm sorry to read that. Could it be that there hasn't been enough time? I know that I wanted quicker results but slowleeee, slowleee... With an affair in the past I do think that your H should be doing more to reassure you. Lisa
