If you think I am recommending that Heather kiss her H’s butt, then you have completely missed everything I am saying. In fact, I think I and others here have pushed Heather pretty hard to stop kissing his butt and stand up for herself, but to do it honestly, with boundaries and not control tactics. In the end, those very control tactics are what keep her in the cycle and keep her kissing his butt. Your comment also tells me you may have missed a lot of what else is said on this board.
