I'll just say this. I generally don't agree with your opinions about Heather's R with her husband and most of your posts IMO suggest that Heather should bow down and kiss her H's butt regardless of how he's broken her back with his attitudes and actions. Heather seems to have come to a place where, for the most part, she knows herself, and although she still loves her H, is confident that she's given enough despite his efforts to convince her otherwise. I think Heather is right on when she says that her H has many qualities that she loves, but there's a limit to what she can continue to suffer to remain in the R.
Schnarch has some good ideas and some that I think are "out there". Think I'll continue doing what's worked to stop the power play in my M. Heather may or may not find a nugget to help her in what I post and that's OK.. she knows herself and her M better than anyone. Thanks for sharing.. like I said, I've never really cared for you point of view either, but this is Heather's little place on the BB and she's smart enough to form her own opinions.
