LL, Tina and Lisa, Let me sum up your responses and try to make the connection to "out of your way" to "show the love", and my question about detaching and being a friend. LL= simply kindness; and simple is no simple word here. Tina = detaching lovingly; be a friend; would you snoop or 20 question a friend? NO Lisa = WAS have to change too. Did you ever read Passionate Marriage, when you get upset that someone else doesn't perceive you as you perceive yourself? Ah hah, how about this formula, behave like yourself 20 years ago when you met, no expectations, therefore no disappointments, smile, laugh, life is good, don't take EVERYTHING so personally, they have a life too, you know, you don't know what tomorrow will bring but it doesn't matter becuase you believe in yourself, and when they do something that makes you happy, BE HAPPY. Lure them back, the little sirens that we are. Take notice of the slightest sign that they are trying and are wonderful. Make them FEEL they are wonderful. Thanks my BB friends, It helps sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much, Sarah
