are u going out of your way to show them the love?

[TinaG]

Sarah

But still my question remains, how to "not pursue" and "go out of my way to show him love".

This is just my opinion and it has taken me six months to figure it out but I think the idea of "detaching lovingly" means to treat them as you would a friend. Give them their independence and you in turn develop yours. Put aside the anger, shock, devastation, and jealousy(not an easy task I know),complete acceptence, unconditional love, I think this is what they are looking for. Once they feel independent of us then perhaps they can come back. Treat them as you would a friend, no 20 questions, no guilt trips, no pressure etc. Looks great on paper, but very hard to put into action.

Taking it day by day,
Tina