Hello tielbeagle! Interesting post because I have also noticed a big change in how I have been responding to my MLC H since the "spiel". There is a thotful, caring, respectful attitude from me now that I am ashamed to admit wasn't very apparant for several months. Learning how to pick my battles carefully has been a big one too. My H is still living with me but 2 months ago he was seriously considering leaving. He quoted the familiar MLC lines to me and I was shocked. It was a wake up call for me. Lately we seem to be communicating much better. He has not told me anything different is relation to his uncertainty with his committment to our relationship and marriage. And I am not asking anymore. He is being more open about how getting older is feeling for him. I still really struggle with not hearing about a committment from him tho. He will not go for joint counselling. He says he really hasn't thot about it lately. That bothers me too. All I can do is live in the present for now. That is tough to do but it is getting easier. Take care and I wish all the best for you and your H.
