Life of Job

[~Sol]

We get to a place where we think to ourselves, I still love this person and want it to work, but at what cost?

8, That is a powerful question. I think about that now, and the journey we are all on is full with painful growth. It forces us to change....

[81388*]

James;
You are right about the tables being turned, and I agree that we have contributed to why our wives feel the way they do. Yes, God is pointing out areas that need improvement, and I am sure that His plan is for this improvement to take place, BUT what else?

There are many ways we could have(and probably already have)been told, we missed it or got it and didn't make it perminent. Unfortunately, this may be the only way He can get it into our thick heads and stone hearts.

I think another lesson is unconditional love. We all say we love our spouse and would do anything for them, do we really mean it? I think just about everyone on this BB could answer in the affirmative, because we have. As christians, we are called to immitate Christ, and love others as He has loved us. A tall order, but I certainly feel closer to the mark now then before.

The list of lessons is probably endless, what about our spouses? What are their lessons?

[81388*]

Sol;
No doubt about it, the winds of change are blowing, more like gail force wind. I think the pain of the change is in seeing how our shortcomings have contributed to the problem, not simply because we are becoming someone different.

Change is what has to happen, I have not met too many people here who want to go back to their old failed relationships. Change in us, change in our S, and change in our marriage.

[jamespb75]

I am reading the book change your life and everyone else in it. It tells about the butterfly affect and how it creates a wave of change. And yes what about our spouses? They need to change for it to work, but It will take us changing first to make changes in them. the feel no need to change because they want out. Why should they, D is around the corner, They don't see a reason. We see the reason, and We are the reason. Once they feel it is necessary to reconcile, the change will be automatic. Our changes will spark them to change.

for those who want to go back to the failed relationship have not truely understood what this is about. They feel everything was fine and they just want that back. It is called the comfort zone. The zone where people just want things the same and don't have any motivation to change. Well, the laywer is sending them post cards, because thats where they will be.

GOD has seen our lives, and took into account why we are all here. He has paved the path on how to get there. Some of us choose to travel at night, and get lost. Some wake in the morning, and find thier way back. Some just wander off and get lost. He has a plan. To make us bettre, stronger, more loving. He didn't make his Son fast for forty days, just to see him starve. Did he? No with every decision there is a motive. What do you want, and how are you going to get there. I learned in church that you shouldn't use what you have to get what you want. Jesus didn't use his power for food, fame and power. He found other ways to get what he wanted, and didn't use the power God had gave him. In other words, I feel this says there is no quick fix, we all need to set a goal, and work very hard to achieve it. Don't take the shortcut.

[81388*]

I have a question, What do you say when they move out?

good by, addios muchacha, see ya later alligator?

Maybe just good luck, hope you find your misplaced happiness, I know I didn't take it because then I would be happy, and I am not.

[jamespb75]

LOL, you could always say don't let the door hit you in the ass.

[ford]

I have a question, What do you say when they move out?

good by, addios muchacha, see ya later alligator?

Maybe just good luck, hope you find your misplaced happiness, I know I didn't take it because then I would be happy, and I am not.

Just play that Motley Crue song:

Girl, don't go away mad..... Girl, just go away...

[81388*]

OK, now that i have stopped laughing, any serious suggestions?

[ford]

man, thats a toughie.

maybe this is a time where less is more? talk wise

[81388*]

Maybe, but it seems like I should say something. I can't for the life of me think what that might be. I am worried about what may come out of my mouth if I don't have something ahead of time.