Jenny. First about the post I made about Two cooks and zero sex. I over did it in several areas.
I stick by my motto that you, me, and everyone else deserves "ONE GOOOD" partner and would never suggest you become Mrs. Lou #2.
Mostly I wanted to let you know that some guys do things for their W and that some men don't expect to be waited on.
I am not being critical of your H and trying to bash him, I can see things he does or doesn't do that trouble me and what I consider normal.
I grew up where moms didn't work or if they did it was part-time so that is why I said be Mrs. Lou and you could work part-time.
All that aside, I still think one guy would be the best choice for you. And yes the guys are going to be "Picky" about who you date, “if you let us.” Maybe it isn't our place to do that, maybe we like to protect our female acquaintances and friends.
I stick by my "one good man" thing. It isn't me. I was just horsing around the other day.
I am passionate about living, from the moment the sun rises until my dreams set in. (MO=my opinion, R-reality) MO: Blow hard. I will lie to impress some one. R: Tell me what you did every day this week/month. He watched the game on TV, downed a 6 pack every night or rode his bike 50 miles, and saw 5 customers.
While my business take a lot of my time MO: I will see you when I am not doing something else or seeing some OW. R: I have most XX days off and work on YY days.
I seek a women of quality, self-assured but easy going MO: He doesn’t want someone he has to support or had clingy tendencies, and let him do what and when he wants to do. R; He wants to provide Xy and wants you to provide AB to the R. He doesn't want xx baggage to come with the woman and wants some independence.
Jenny, flowery statements look good to some people but like politicians saying the promise a "chicken in everyone's pot" during the depression, it sounds nice but how does it get done, what was done in the guys past to prove himself.
If I posted a profile instead of saying I like to dine out, I would say I went to IHOP 4X, Taco Bell 5X, Arbys 1X Applebee's 1X, and a local soup/sandwich/salad bar 1X this month. That way the OP reading my profile knows where I go to eat out and if they like or don't like those places, it is up to them to determine compatibility.
A seeker of the truth Oh. Who's truth? And telling part of the truth is still misleading.
The profile is all too nebulous for me Jenny. Facts, and figures.
Jenny, I like to square dance. I could put that in my profile. But the whole truth is I only went once and that was back in 1963 to an introduction to square dancing event.
If I was a woman dating, eventually I would say show me your driving record, your M and D papers, your military records, lets go to the cop shop and do a rep-sheet check. All too drastic for a first date, but to me the flowery profile like this one, is not concrete enough.
Maybe working in a group home has reduced my ability to trust people using the "first glance" method.
My real feelings are some people don't write well and some people write well enough to cover up the whole truth.
This isn't a Victorian gala ball (like the ball in "The Age of Innocence") where there are carefully coded signals and responses. It's much more rough and tumble... I guess like a mosh pit! LOL!
Well, it makes sense that it would be that way since people don't really have to invest much effort just to keep their profile posted. During my very brief investigation of the world of AdultFriendFinder I got a ton of responses and it was interesting to me how different they were, everything from straight-up kink to butterfly kisses was offered. Of course, I didn't reply or even post my picture so the experience was completely one-way.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
What was that? The doorbell. A package for me. Please excuse my appearance I just got out of the shower. Oops, I dropped it. Naughty pictures.How embarrassing! and now my robe just won't stay closed as I bend forward to pick them up, my eyes level with just below the belt of your cute brown uniform. Do I need to sign? I step on my robe sash as I start to stand and the whole thing just pools at my feet leaving me nekkid except for the dirty pictures which I press to my breasts in a sort of Girl on Girl collage.....
Ha!
reminds me that a long time ago, for a short time, I worked for a large parcel delivery service...wore a brown uniform, drove a brown truck. (I won't say the name of the company, but its initials are UPS). never saw anything like that. {sigh}
Lil I'd much rather they not reply than to send me an 'I'm not interested' email
Really? I think a reply ties up lose ends. Makes it easier to know what "is" going on, rather than guessing.
I know some people pick apart reasons or defended points, so maybe someone doesn't want to go through that so they sort of melt to the back ground.
At one place where I work, I liked the exit interviews. Good chance to see another side of the departing employee and to hear some things that wouldn't be normally said. Some diss’ing and some growth for me statements, in almost all exit interviews. Some exit interviews were all about the person leaving. That was good too.
never saw anything like that. I had one woman come to the door when I delivered her car. She was covered in a towel and had dripping wet hair. I thought it would have been better for her to tell me to wait 5 minuets.
Another time I delivered a car and a woman and her bf came to the door all wet. I knew the woman's H. What I didn't know they both H/W played around.
I knew both women. They were semi-regular customers.
The profile is all too nebulous for me Jenny. Facts, and figures.
Gotcha. I'm going to have to start a file of advice tips from you guys. Clearly I view the world through rose-tinted glasses.
BTW, don't worry about being perceived as flirting with me. I tend to "say" whatever comes to mind here with no filter and I pretty much ignore it when others do the same. If somebody says to me "Will you be my wife!" I read it as "I dearly wish my wife would behave in the manner you describe." or something like that.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
[quote=MJontheMend] reminds me that a long time ago, for a short time, I worked for a large parcel delivery service...wore a brown uniform, drove a brown truck. (I won't say the name of the company, but its initials are UPS). never saw anything like that. {sigh}
Considering your sitch, probably a good thing too!
